Could you not help it Week 5, 2012

How could you have behaved like that? It is reprehensible and not to be mentioned among believers. But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving Eph 5:3-4(ESV). “Look it’s not my fault. I have been made to behave that way...” Don’t you dare blame the devil! We have been given victory over Satan. “I am not blaming Satan; it’s a human being that is causing it.” Who can that be? “Is it not that apology of a human being I am living with? I have been provoked and denied. I’ve been made to do things I never imagined I would do.”
Come off it, are you trying to suggest you are being controlled? That you can no longer determine what you do? “Look when it happens I just don’t know what comes over me; I doubt if I even think on the matter but find myself just taking action.” No, no, no you can’t say this. We have been given the spirit of self control, for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control 2Ti 1:7(ESV). What is really happening? “Well when my opinion in sensitive matters is not sought, and things are done contrary to agreement, when I am repeatedly ignored I tune off. When my authority is questioned, nay, set aside and disregarded I have to act. Teach these things and use your full authority as you encourage and rebuke your hearers. Let none of them look down on you Tit 2:15(GNB). I must not let people ignore my authority.” Indeed! Did you skip Tit 1:7 before deciding on what you did? be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre You must however accept that the blame is yours. You are fully responsible for your actions. Confess your sins and ask God’s forgiveness beloved.
“How can you say that? You insult me. I have told you what is happening in my very home and you dare suggest I have a fault; in fact you are blaming me!” It takes two to tangle. “Well the circumstances around me, that thing at home precipitated it.” You are still abusing people; anyway I agree with you: it was precipitated. “Thank you! You see it was not my fault.” I never said so. “Ah-ah. But you agree it was precipitated.” Yes. Have you considered you can never precipitate what is not in solution? If anger, wrath, adultery are not in you no set of circumstances would have been able to bring them out. If sin were dead in you nothing around you would have succeeded in bringing about this mess. Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry Col 3:5(ESV). Let me tell you quite plainly: you are inexcusable.