Monday, 12 September 2016

The 16 year wait Week 37, 2016



It had been 16 years I wanted another baby. When I had my first baby I bled every month in pregnancy but unlike the menstrual cycle the bleeding wouldn’t last the number of days. No one could explain it. The only thing the doctor did was to put a circlage stitch in my cervix to prevent the baby from miscarrying. When I was term I notice one day the waters had burst and I went to the hospital. I delivered my daughter almost immediately after the stitch was removed. It was then my doctor drew my ears and told me to be very close to the hospital. In 2002 I was pregnant again. And it was with twin boys. Since I was very strong I continued working on my bank job. There was no problem until the last trimester. At 7 months I suddenly started bleeding heavily and was rushed to the hospital. I mean I really bled. The first twin died immediately and the second one was really bad. The doctor said he would have a lot of deficiencies because of all the trauma and they tried to keep him alive. But suddenly he died. And that was it.
Over the next few years all attempts to get pregnant failed me. My husband and I visited renowned IVF clinics in Nigeria which were of course very expensive. The best known was patronised by me yet no baby. We went to United Kingdom to the facility where the first “Test tube baby” was born. The cost in pounds sterling was so high, we had to sweat to bring it out. For 2 months I was on hormone therapy and finally had the fertilisation done. Tests proved I was pregnant! I then was discharged and packed my bags to get back home. That day I lost the pregnancy again. I told my husband I had had enough. It wasn’t the money really. The expectations, hopes and sudden disappointments were too much of an emotional roller-coaster for me. That was in 2007.
I decided to adopt and that was a long process. Each time I was called I was told they had twins for me and I didn’t want twins; they were too much trouble! By 2011 I had left banking for good, was running a charity for street children with most of my earnings, and had a life changing trip to Hawaii on Haggai institute for Christian women leaders. After this I began working with an NGO charity helping raise awareness and coordinate free treatment for children born with a facial deformity. I was on a visit to Liberia for this in 2014 when the Ebola outbreak hit. I visited one of the main centres. When I got to USA from there I was sick, so sick I was vomiting. Had I contracted Ebola? I had no fever, but all tests to show what was wrong with me were negative. I went back to Nigeria and visited the hospital. After a number of blood tests one of the junior doctors told me “You are pregnant.” I told him he didn’t know what he was saying and requested the consultant. But I was pregnant. Pregnant with triplets without IVF or any planned intervention. I travelled to USA and had them: two boys and a girl. My employers gave me on request 2 years off work (and to my amazement paid me fully in the period)! So I now have 4 children. Glory to Jesus Christ! Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there any thing too hard for me? Jer 32:27(KJV)                                                                                            Nkiru is an international Haggai institute alumnus

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